Is it acceptable to wear a rosary?
Many of us of European stock (by extension, including those of us in the New World) would say that a rosary is for praying, not for wearing. It was something you could get away with briefly as a three-year old but not as an older child, teen or adult. The nuns also found this practice unacceptable, but they rarely saw it because our parents brought us up in Western traditions, so it was a non-starter.
I make that distinction because in some Latin American, South American and African countries, Catholics don’t see it as a problem. Some use it as a sign of their Christianity when they cannot afford to buy gold or silver crucifixes to wear. Some Africans find it necessary to wear rosaries in order to send a message to Muslims that they are Christians.
Bad Vestments recently leapt into this topic with a post called ‘Themes to Avoid’. I’m on the side of Bad Vestments, but that was how my friends and I were raised. I guess the lady in their picture thinks it’s okay, but it will bother some. I should mention that I also find a red rosary particularly offensive and have never seen one until Bad Vestments‘ photograph. The colour red is associated with the Holy Spirit and martyrdom, which is one thing, but I have not seen it used for a rosary. Red is also used in the secular world to symbolise sex and vice. Maybe it’s a cultural thing though, so please don’t come piling in.
Do I personally think it’s right where it is not historically part of our culture and Christianity? No. Here’s why:
– Wearing a rosary or draping it around a rearview mirror may hold a syncretic meaning for some, e.g. like a ‘lucky’ rabbit’s foot
– Those wearing the rosary must be acting reverently at all times in order to show it the respect it deserves as a sacramental — so, no gyrating, cursing or ungodly behaviour
– Wearing a rosary is becoming commonplace amongst gang members and drug dealers, people who are engaging in criminal behaviour
– Those who wear it may sweat on or stain it — not appropriate for a sacramental, which should be treated reverently, like a Bible or a prayerbook
– Rosaries should be blessed, therefore, it would not seem appropriate to wear them like jewelry
– The more people treat a rosary the way they wish to treat it, the higher the risk that it becomes a pagan symbol — devoid of Christian meaning
Some religious orders wear 15-decade rosaries draped around their belts, which is different. They are keeping them to the side for when they pray and as a sign of their faith. They have also taken religious vows, including obedience to our Lord in their personal thoughts and deeds.
Laypeople in the West generally keep rosaries in a discreet place on their person or in a handbag where they are there for prayer. This means that they do not finger them casually or get them dirty, e.g. place them next to money or food crumbs. Would you keep your pocket-sized New Testament in a pocket with unsightly residue or next to loose change? A rosary is no different.
Similarly, smaller one-decade rosaries should not be worn as bracelets. They, too, are sacramentals and should ideally be blessed by a priest. They are for travel or for times when it may be inappropriate to use a five-decade rosary.
What does the Catholic Church say? Here it becomes less clear-cut:
Pope Innocent XI, 1679: To those who openly wear the rosary out of devotion and to set a good example: a hundred days’ indulgence — confirmed by our Holy Father Pope Innocent XI on 31st July 1679, and received and made public by the Archbishop of Paris on 25th September of the same year.
Canon Law: ‘Sacred objects, set aside for divine worship by dedication or blessing, are to be treated with reverence. They are not to be made over to secular or inappropriate use, even though they may belong to private persons.’
Catholic Answers: Essentially, sacramentals such as rosaries must be treated with respect, particularly if they have been blessed. Reverence is the attitude of awe or respect that is most often given to sacred things. By its very definition, it is an interior disposition that usually cannot be determined by onlookers by appearances alone. A person may be wearing a rosary as a statement of faith, to keep it handy for praying throughout the day, or to avoid losing it. Those reasons would be indicative of reverence and would not interfere with the canon’s directive that sacramentals must be treated reverently.
Ordinarily speaking, then, if someone is spotted wearing a rosary, he should be charitably presumed to be wearing it for just reasons. Only if the rosary is being put to an objectively sordid use (e.g., a rock star is using it as a prop in a music video, obscenely contrasting the symbolic purity of the rosary with the immodest or immoral actions of the performers) can we be sure that the rosary is being treated irreverently.
Bottom line — if you’re going to wear a rosary, please demonstrate the demeanour of a monk or a nun at all times. And please don’t be upset if people find wearing one offensive.
More about the Rosary tomorrow
4 comments
June 29, 2010 at 11:12 pm
David
Hello, Churchmouse. I personally don’t wear a rosary, but I don’t think anything bad about someone who does. I remember seeing someone on TV wearing one and knew then they were Christian/Catholic. You can wear something around your neck other than a crucifix and be reverent wearing it.
I know that some gangs are using them, but I don’t know what that means or says about the gang or the persons, remember, the Italians in the Godfather were Catholic, so presumably all of them wore crucifixes.
I have blessed/religious articles all over the place. I have a rosary on my rear-view as a sign of holiness of the car, I have one on the stick shift, I have a crucifix in front of the speedometer, a Sacred Heart Auto League medallion on the visor, and several other holy things in the car. They are reminders of my faith and remind me to act Christian in the car. I also have an OLPH , and OLOG, and a crucifix on my desk at work.
I wear my faith out in the open in the hope that someone who sees these things will ask. With the HOly Spirit’s help I’m on my way to two converts at work, just because I am open about my faith.
I think that, if you have the right attitude, you can wear things that show your faith. Of course, this can border on lucky charms, and so on, but I think better more these days than less. God bless.
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June 30, 2010 at 6:45 am
churchmouse
Thanks, David — I’m talking specifically about the rosary here, not religious items in general.
If you’d been a Catholic 20 – 30 years ago, things in the West were quite different … Also, pre-Vatican II, Catholic men wore scapular medals, not crucifixes, around their necks. Most, like mine, didn’t wear anything in adulthood.
In any event, I hope that you and yours are well!
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September 19, 2010 at 5:09 pm
mirissa
my nanna has gave me a rosary and i have been goi threw ome very difficult times i have a young daughter and i am tryin to keep my life in order for her it makes me feel a stronger person to wear tnem when things get really hard to deal witn i am a christian and dont have alot of religious views but somehow it makes me feel like a can get threw anything when i wear tnem my moter says it will bring me bad luck is this true because it is actually helpin me be a stronger person i feel like am not alone when things get bad and a feel like am breakin down i dont feel so alone and vunerable
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September 19, 2010 at 8:42 pm
churchmouse
Hello, Mirissa — I can understand, to a certain extent, why you are wearing a rosary. I’m sure your grandmother gave you a rosary in love and in faith. Did she teach you how to pray the rosary? If so, then pray it. But, with all respect, please keep in mind that a rosary is not like a good luck charm.
I can see why this sacramental is a reminder of your grandmother — a very tangible reminder of a dear, loving lady. So, if it serves as that, then, keep it close to you. But, I’m a bit with your mother on whether you should actually be wearing it habitually. I would pray the rosary, if I were you, or keep it safely in a front pocket (jacket, trousers or skirt).
I am aware that some would advise you to start going to church or studying God’s Word in the Bible. I would agree. On the other hand, your grandmother’s rosary is a tangible link with her when, or if, you cannot contact her directly.
I shall pray that you come to a fuller understanding of God’s plan for you. Your grandmother wants what is best for you, as does God. If you are a Catholic, then, please learn how to pray the rosary. This post might help you pray it:
Recite a different mystery every day for yourself, your family and your daughter (see the specific prayers after the instructions and the mysteries):
Instructions for a five-decade Rosary: At the crucifix, make the Sign of Cross and say the Apostle’s Creed. At the first bead, say an Our Father [The Lord’s Prayer]. At the section of 3 beads, say 3 Hail Marys. The next bead represents another Our Father. At the Centerpiece, say a Glory Be, an Our Father and recite the respective Mystery (starting with [the first] — see sections 11 through 13). For each of the 10 beads, say a Hail Mary. At each single bead, say a Glory Be and an Our Father then state the next Mystery. Go around the circle five times, finishing with 10 Hail Marys, to complete the 15 Mysteries.
Joyful Mysteries: The Annunciation. Fruit of the Mystery: Humility. The Visitation. Fruit of the Mystery: Love of Neighbor. The Nativity. Fruit of the Mystery: Poverty (poor in spirit), Detachment from the things of the world, Contempt of Riches, Love of the Poor. The Presentation of Jesus at the Temple. Fruit of the Mystery: Purity, Obedience. The Finding of the Child Jesus in the Temple. Fruit of the Mystery: True Wisdom and True Conversion, Piety and Joy of Finding Jesus.
Sorrowful Mysteries: The Agony in the Garden. Fruit of the Mystery: Sorrow for Sin, Uniformity with the will of God. The Scourging at the Pillar. Fruit of the Mystery: Mortification, Purity. The Crowning with Thorns. Fruit of the Mystery: Contempt of the world, Courage. The Carrying of the Cross. Fruit of the Mystery: Patience. The Crucifixion. Fruit of the Mystery: Salvation, Forgiveness.
Glorious Mysteries: The Resurrection. Fruit of the Mystery: Faith. The Ascension. Fruit of the Mystery: Hope and desire for ascension to Heaven. The Descent of the Holy Spirit. Fruit of the Mystery: Holy Wisdom to know the truth and share with everyone, Divine Charity, Worship of the Holy Spirit. The Assumption of Mary. Fruit of the Mystery: Grace of a Happy Death and True Devotion towards Mary. The Coronation of the Blessed Virgin Mary. Fruit of the Mystery: Perseverance and Crown of Glory, Trust in Mary’s Intercession.
Apostles’ Creed:
I believe in God the Father, Almighty, Maker of heaven and earth:
And in Jesus Christ, his only begotten Son, our Lord:
Who was conceived by the Holy Ghost, born of the Virgin Mary:
Suffered under Pontius Pilate; was crucified, dead and buried: He descended into hell:
The third day he rose again from the dead:
He ascended into heaven, and sits at the right hand of God the Father Almighty:
From thence he shall come to judge the quick and the dead:
I believe in the Holy Ghost:
I believe in the holy catholic church: the communion of saints:
The forgiveness of sins:
The resurrection of the body:
And the life everlasting. Amen.
Our Father
Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come,
thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.
Hail Mary
Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
Now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
Glory Be
Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit,
As it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.
I wish you all the best with your life and your young daughter’s. May God bless you abundantly — today and always. Most importantly, please pray to Jesus that He helps you make the right decisions. He will certainly help you. Try to attend church, too. Make time for prayer and quiet daily. Try for a few minutes every day, then increase the time as you can. We don’t need to pray perfect prayers, but, I would suggest that you learn the Our Father by heart. Jesus Himself gave us that prayer. The Apostles asked Him, ‘Lord, teach us to pray’, and He recited the Our Father for them. Those words live on today (Matthew 6:9-15):
9″This, then, is how you should pray:
” ‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
10your kingdom come,
your will be done
on earth as it is in heaven.
11Give us today our daily bread.
12Forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one.’ 14For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Write back if you are unclear on anything about the rosary or the Christian faith. Again, I shall remember you in my prayers.
Churchmouse
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