
Oh, dear. The lack of confessions might be due not just to the priest lacking time, although the Vatican is trying to combat this in a practical and sensitive way, but to the laity’s changing attitude towards sin.
I ran across a 2008 article from Zenit which states that increasing numbers of Catholics are dealing with sins in a morally relativistic fashion — what they want, when they want. In other words, moralistic therapeutic deism, although the Bishop of Salto (Uruguay) calls it ‘privatised’ religion. But it’s the same thing, really.
Bishop Pablo Galimberti told Zenit (highlights mine) that:
he believes confessions are less frequent because many Catholics leave aside the figure of the priest and choose religious rites according to personal convenience.
‘In general terms, with adjustments for each country and each tradition, I think this is a worldwide phenomenon and is seen in each country with different focuses, obviously,’ the bishop said.
Bishop Galimberti holds the consumer society partially responsible:
Sundays, he offered as an example, are good days for buying, for going out, for sports, for an agenda ever more packed full. ‘And Mass that is taken on the run, and remains a bit subordinated to other interests that also pressure the family.’
He also notes a relativistic attitude towards sin among Catholics:
He mentioned a young student who, after making a ‘nearly psychological’ analysis of his problems, did not point out errors in himself nor in others. ‘And this student doesn’t have a body, hasn’t sinned, is an angel?‘ he asked himself.
Brilliant! Oh, to have been a fly on the wall when that conversation took place. I would love to meet this bishop. We need more like him!
Yet, he noted that priests must also shoulder some of the blame, rightly or wrongly:
He contended that many priests have distanced themselves from the sacrament to avoid ‘getting involved’ — avoiding problems that are or can become complex. And priests, too, the bishop added, also have their agendas more and more full and have less time for personal meetings with the faithful.
We know they are busy, but … the good bishop confirms what I had suspected for some years — too many, as a matter of fact — that the parish priest doesn’t want to get involved at all. I remember growing up in the 1970s and the word from the pastor of the brand new parish we belonged to said flat out during the announcements, ‘I won’t be coming around to bless your house, so please avoid disappointment by not asking.’ Blimey, there were only about 400 parishoners, including kids, at the time. That would have meant at the time 150 homes, roughly. I’m sure most of those people had already had their houses blessed. So, imagine priests dealing with post-divorce counselling, RCIA and all the rest of it!
Well, one thing is true enough, there are generally enough Protestant pastors to go around. And, yes, they do make house calls, even when you don’t want them to! As they say in the North of England: ‘Owt’s better than nowt’ — something’s better than nothing at all.





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September 14, 2009 at 1:44 am
Sandy
Hey ChurchMouse,
Again as usual a post full of knowledge for us. It made me think back to my first confession, was it ever a hoot 🙂
I was standing outside and of course nervous as all get out and went to my first confession at the time I was supposed to go. I went into the Priest and said the usual Bless me Father…….. this is my first confession……..
When I did he looked at his watch and said, “I do not have time for this.” The reason he did not have time is because he was late by 30 minutes and still is. My nerves seemed to calm at that moment though to which my reply was, “Let me make it easy on you then. I am a sinner from my head to my toes, and the only goodness in me is the goodness of God.” I was absolved and the rest is history.
You know when I read all these things I write on your blog it is a wonder I ever made it and am still there 🙂
On a more serious note though we are all busy, not just the Priest. We all have hectic schedules and are all responsible for others in our lives. Somewhere in this hustle-bustle we need to make time always for “confession.” What I do is try to make it every first Saturday. That is just a day I picked for myself to keep a schedule with it.
On a more serious note on the Priest. Yes they are busy and responsible for many. However they do not go home to kids needing baths, a hungry husband or wife, homework needing to be done, laundry stacked to the roof, etc… where we do. We do this and still have time for our work and for the work in the Church. The way I feel this is the life they chose and confession is part of it. They need to be in the confessional at whatever time they say they are going to be.
So I think it is both that need to make a greater effort, and also sometimes it would not hurt for this to be discussed from the pulpit, and remind people of it.
Again good one. God Bless, Sandy
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September 14, 2009 at 6:02 am
churchmouse
Hi, Sandy — I so appreciate your perspective. You have had an authentic Catholic experience with Confession.
I remember when I was a child in the late 60s and the nun told us it would be a good spiritual discipline to go to confession weekly. And, that is what we did in one Catholic school I attended. I think it was every Friday during Religion class. She spent 15 minutes with us preparing, then we went to church, which was right next door and the priest was there waiting for us in the confessional. It was ideal.
The next town we lived in was different. No similar arrangement for the schoolkids, which was fine. So, I used to go on Sundays before 8 a.m. Mass. (This is yet a different church to the one mentioned in today’s post.) After a few weeks, one Sunday after a long silence, the priest said, ‘Stop wasting my time with these so-called sins! Confession is for something important!’ Those might not have been his exact words, but they are paraphrased pretty accurately. Needless to say, I was taken aback (I was what another WordPress blogger calls ‘a Catholic geek’) and only went a couple times a year afterward. So, that was from my childhood until the point when I eventually stopped going altogether (for reasons to be explained sometime, but not now).
I’m sure he wasn’t the only priest to have said that to a child or an adolescent, who then figured, ‘Hey, why bother?’ It’s interesting to read what other regular Catholics say about this sacrament. I read on a Catholic board last week where one person went to Confession before Saturday evening vigil Mass and they were the only ones to go! They said, ‘What a holy parish this must be.’ Then, other people replied to say that in their parishes either the priest shows up late (as in your case) or isn’t there at all. So, this raises two questions — is it totally the laity’s fault they don’t go to Confession or have they had experiences like yours and mine?
I think there is going to be an Almighty judgment of all this laxity. Either God is going to let us know of His displeasure or, like in yesterday’s Bible post (Sept. 13), He’s going to say, ‘Fine — if that’s the way you want to live, have at it.’ We are in a heap of trouble today — priests, laity — the whole nine yards.
Keep doing what you’re doing — you handled the situation BRILLIANTLY. Yes, I, too, wonder that you’re still there! 😉 I’m glad you are, of course, but these guys are supposed to be SHEPHERDING their flocks. And, you’re right, the absence of wifey, kiddies and family life is supposed to facilitate that! (Yet, interestingly, Protestant pastors and their associate pastors seem to be able to do it. Go figure.)
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September 14, 2009 at 7:41 am
Antonella Oliver
Monthly confession will be a remedy for the church. Psalm 32 : 5-6
speaks of confession and its fruit.
Then I acknowledged my sin to you and I did not hide my iniquity
I said, I will confess my transgressions to the Lord
and you forgave the guilt of my sin
Therefore let all who are faithful
offer prayer to you
at a time of distress, the rush of mighty waters
shall not reach them.
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September 14, 2009 at 8:33 am
churchmouse
Thanks, Antonella! Good to hear from you and what a beautiful excerpt from the Psalms!
Maybe monthly confession is the way forward.
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September 14, 2009 at 10:31 am
Cinzia
Hi Churchmouse, I’m back, catching up with the reading after a hectic weekend away from the PC.
Good to be back – I really enjoy tuning in and seeing what’s new and “what will I learn today?”
Excellent!! Thanks for all the hard work.
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September 14, 2009 at 11:49 am
churchmouse
You’re very welcome, Cinzia! It’s great to have you back!! 🙂
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September 14, 2009 at 3:35 pm
Gabriella
I believe priests should preach frequently about confession at the regular Sunday Masses, not just on our “need” for it, but also on our “desire” for it, and how it is beneficial to receive the sacrament frequently even if we don’t fall into mortal sin. He should teach us that if we go to confession whenever we can, even daily to confess the same sins over, we’ll be filled with amazing grace.
He should also take the time to say that he wants to hear confessions, that it’s one of the most important parts of his job. He needs to overcome some people’s fear of “bothering” a busy pastor.
He could also post in the church, or print from time to time in the bulletin – making sure there are no grammar mistakes 😉 – the times and locations of regular Confession in nearby churches, for those who need an alternate time or who feel that they are more comfortable at a parish where they are a stranger.
That being said, I don’t say it’s ALL the priests’ fault. WE take on a responsibility for our own faith – and part of that is frequenting the Sacraments – and really, today there is no excuse for being ignorant of one’s religion .
A personal experience: one of my ‘modern’ pastors tried to tell me that the ‘confiteor’ part of Mass had the same effect as confession. Jesuit of course. They think people like me suffer from over-scrupulousness and need only to be relieved of our guilt 🙂
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September 14, 2009 at 4:18 pm
churchmouse
Thank you so much for your thoughts, Gabriella. I’m delighted you commented!
My comments on yours — feel free to elaborate further, if you like:
– getting the priests to actually preach about Confession would be great. But, how many **want** to? Workload considerations … they might actually get people interested in Confession. 😉
– times of Confession and where. They need to adhere to the times, also (see Sandy’s post above and many similar stories I’ve read from American Catholics). Excellent idea about putting in hours at neighbouring parishes so one can go anonymously! 🙂
– no excuse for not knowing our religion these days. Correct, and one of my neighbours (cradle Catholic) would agree with your comment 110%. But, as my better half and I were trying to explain to her just a couple of weeks ago — SO MANY people today haven’t a clue as to what Catholicism is. There are way fewer Catholic schools, and the ones that exist are priced out of most parents’ reach (lay teachers instead of nuns). We now have a generation of Catholic parents who have been brought up with Vatican II CCD classes which don’t tell them the finer points that we grew up with. Consequently, their children have little chance of learning those teachings and traditions anywhere. And, the priests generally don’t explain these things in their sermons, either. Yes, Catholics bear some responsibility, agreed — but having the resources to know what to do when — well, that’s pretty well lost, I’m afraid.
Yes, I realise there are blogs, Catholic websites and so forth, but, most people will not take the time. They aren’t that interested. It’s something a few adult seekers will do for themselves, certainly. But, by and large, that knowledge needs to be transmitted to a child by a well-informed adult, then reinforced time and time again between the ages of 3 and 13. (How did I come up with the ages? First prayers through to Confirmation.)
— guilt not absolution. Yes, I can imagine a Jesuit saying that. 😉 Well, that’s another issue, too — legalism. I’ll take legalism in general up in another post, but re Confession — think back to how often you were advised to receive it as a child. For me, it was weekly, if possible. Then, I really didn’t hear anything more about it in the 1970s. Confession sort of disappeared other than before Christmas and Easter. No further mention at home or school. Kind of like eating fish on Friday 😉 — ‘Don’t worry about it. You don’t have to anymore.’
Sorry to harp on (and about the length of this response): I’m certainly not criticising your comment in any way. ** In many ways, I agree with it. ** I’m in part playing Devil’s Advocate — something else that no longer exists — but I don’t realistically think that people will use their initiative about church and seek these things out for themselves.
I REALLY wish there were more Catholics like you. I read your blog and think, ‘My stars, what knowledge and what faith.’ Your children are so lucky to have you as a mum, Gabriella! May God continue to bless you and your EXCELLENT work!!
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September 14, 2009 at 9:34 pm
Sandy
Hello ChurchMouse and Gabriella,
Love the conversation between the two of you and you both are making very good points. There is one statement that truly hit me though, and that was when Gabriella said, “The desire for it.”
I had to really think about that in my own life. At times do I go to Confession becaue it is required of me, or because I want a release from something, or because I truly want to repent of my sins and reconcile myself back with God? You know when I answered these questions I said “yes” to all three of them. Something dawned on me when I did.
Confession should truly be about how sorrowful we are for our sins and to reconcile ourselves back to God. It should be again, about Him and not us, even though we need all the graces we receive when we go to Confession it still should as far as me, revert back to God. I do not think I have always done that in my own thoughts and in my heart, when I go to Confession.
Very good “eye opener” for me, and I thank you Gabriella for making me think about that.
See ChurchMouse this is why your blog is so good.
God Bless, Sandy
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September 14, 2009 at 9:44 pm
churchmouse
Well, Sandy, thank you for the compliment. I try to get diverse points of view.
When I was a kid (and maybe Gabriella remembers this), we used to hear a story about a boy who whenever he sinned had to pound a nail into a fence. His earthly father made him do that (I’m sure this was an ‘instructive’ story, not a real one) every time he sinned. It was a marker. Eventually, the boy saw how many nails he pounded into the fence and thought, ‘Gosh!’
One day, he told his father he didn’t feel inclined to sin any more. So, his father said, ‘You never know. Just in case, every time you feel tempted to sin and resist, pull out one nail.’ So, the boy did. At the end of the ‘exercise’, there were only holes in the fence.
The point of this story is that even when we sin and feel no more temptation in that direction, our souls are full of holes. So, as a nine year old back in the 1960s, my soul was already full of holes. Of course, there were more nails in new and different places. Those particular sins, once resisted, would lead to more holes.
This is why children in my age group felt strongly the DESIRE to follow our teacher’s and our First Communion prayerbook’s advice to seek Confession so often.
But, now, of course, one doesn’t need to worry so much … 😐
Did you receive any sort of special prayerbook and rosary when you entered the Church? I should be interested to know out of curiosity. Thanks in advance. 🙂
God bless you, too, Sandy! 🙂
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September 14, 2009 at 9:56 pm
Sandy
Hello ChurchMouse,
Thank you for your response, that was truly a good point you made in fact several good points.
I received a Rosary when I came into the Church but no prayer book. However that did not mean my RCIA teacher had not already headed me to many prayer books so I had two but I got those before I came into the Church. Now I have a stack of them, which is okay as I am one who has to make myself stay focused, and if I am saying the same prayers over and over, my concentration is about zero to zip.
Thanks again to both of you, Sandy
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September 14, 2009 at 10:14 pm
churchmouse
When I made my First Holy Communion we received small (but amazingly thorough Missals) and a rosary — black for boys and white for girls.
I don’t think they even do the two for children anymore — anyone out there who can refute or confirm this? You’re most welcome! 🙂
Our prayerbooks had a tiny crucifix inside the front cover upon which to reflect, the Order of the Mass, general prayers, meditations and short sayings that one could recite through the day to earn days off purgatory time. These were called ‘ejaculations’ (please don’t laugh, even if it’s tempting — don’t pound a nail into the fence 😯 ). Each one had the number of days off purgatory by reciting them a certain number of times. It was a good time to be a Catholic. (The diocese or parish paid for the First Communion prayerbooks and rosaries.)
So, in light of that, I’m happy to know that you have several useful prayerbooks which will stand you in good stead.
I so enjoy reading your experiences and insights, Sandy. I am sure that the Holy Trinity and Our Lady are smiling upon you now.
Wishing you the very best spiritual journey (and looking forward to hearing more!)
Churchmouse
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September 14, 2009 at 10:27 pm
Sandy
Okay ChurchMouse, you write something like that and then “TELL ME NOT TO LAUGH”
Can’t you not tell by some of my post, my sense of humor at times knows no bounds??
Just give the dat-gum hammer okay??? I will try to something with these tears that are now falling down my face……… due to the fact that I am trying so hard not to laugh 😆
Take care and God Bless, Sandy
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September 14, 2009 at 10:39 pm
churchmouse
Mind over matter … 😉
Think 😐 😐 😐 😐 …
Good thing you weren’t at Confession, huh?
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September 14, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Sandy
ChurchMouse,
I have a question for you which has nothing to do with this blog, but I guess in a way it does have something to do with the blog in it’s entirety.
I have been reading some on the “Ecumenical Movement.” Some are very much for it and some are very much against it. Truly I had never heard of it until your blog.
What is truly the scoop on this? To me that is one thing Vatican II wanted and Pope John Paul was to bring unity among other believers. Am I wrong in my conclusions?
Of course you know I can claim I have had both, and more than anything I wish we could get along, as I know first hand how the condemnation feels. I guess in a sense we all do.
Just wanting to know where you stand on some of these issues, as some of what I have read some feel it is great and others feel we are giving up “being Catholic” because of it?
Thanks, Sandy
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September 15, 2009 at 5:55 am
churchmouse
I’m involved in an ecumenical project locally — I think it’s a great idea.
This blog is ecumenical, even if it leans heavily towards the Catholic side of things! I have provided loads of resources for people seeking info about different denominations.
There is unlikely to be the unity foreseen in V-II. People like their denominations’ beliefs.
Both sides gave up a bit. Liturgies in some Protestant denominations changed somewhat to accommodate parts of Catholic liturgy (e.g. Eucharistic prayer acclamation, sign of peace).
What we can do generally speaking is work together and communicate as brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus. I also think it’s nice going to other denominations’ services. But, there are plenty on both sides who have no desire to do that.
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September 15, 2009 at 9:54 am
churchmouse
I should point out that there is ‘ecumenical’ and ‘interfaith’ — these are two different things.
‘Ecumenical’ refers to interaction among diverse Christian denominations. ‘Interfaith’ refers to different faiths — Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, etc. — interacting together.
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September 15, 2009 at 8:11 am
Antonella Oliver
I remember being taught that of all the parts of the sacrament of Penance the most necessary is contrition, because without it no pardon for sins is obtainable, provided that along with it there is the desire, at least implicit, of going to confession.
The parts of the Sacrament of Penance are : contrition, confession and satisfaction on the part of the penitent and absolution on the part of the priest.
I remeber also the conditions of making a good confession :-
Examination of conscience
sorrow for having offended God
A resolution of sinning no more
Confession of our sins
Penance
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September 15, 2009 at 9:49 am
churchmouse
Exactly so, Antonella! And a good reminder of how important preparation is for Confession. Thank you!
And, even after Penance, I would add (although it’s not in the book) ‘True repentance’ — really resisting another urge to commit that sin!
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September 15, 2009 at 1:24 pm
Sandy
Thanks ChurchMouse for clearing it up for me a little. Like I said, I had never heard of it before and wanted more of a clear definition of what it is for.
I think you are correct we all should strive for unity as Christians, as that would to me glorify God more than anything. Sometimes it is possible and sometimes it is not, but it does not mean we do not keep trying.
Again thanks for your response. God Bless, Sandy
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September 15, 2009 at 9:20 pm
Gabriella
Thank you for your meaningful comment to my comment 😉
‘…But, how many **want** to?’
Hmmm! I agree with you here. It’s more of a question of the will than of lack of time. Most of them probably want to hand over this ‘job’ too to laymen … 😉
Regarding Catholic education, I agree there’s an emergency here. Nothing serious happening at Novus Ordo churches especially where children are concerned. All that children do at my parish catechism classes is to prepare fancy posters to stick all round the church.
What I actually meant is that there is no excuse for ignorance today for the adults that want to know and are searching for God. It is these adults that in the US homeschool their children (this is not allowed here in Italy) and I admire them and I notice from the many blogs through which they help each other that most of them are young mothers with many children.
True, the modern wishy washy novus ordo has relegated confession to Easter and goodness knows where they’ve relegated fast and abstinence but thank God the minority of Catholics, the traditionals (orthodox), still have confession once a week (at least) and still keep all the other traditions alive.
I’d like to add a few considerations to what you and Sandy have said on Ecumenism – all very correct.
Unfortunately, Orthodox thought in the matter is too often polarized between two equally wrong positions: “open” relativism and “closed” fanaticism … Between these two positions — which are both unfaithful to the present Orthodox responsibility — lies the road of a conscious and sober participation in the ecumenical movement, implying no compromise, but much love and understanding. This road is the right one, not simply because it is the “middle” road, but mainly because it reflects the truly catholic spirit of the Orthodox faith. It is also the only truly responsible one: for if Orthodoxy does not bear its witness, who else will?
The Orthodox Church has participated in the ecumenical movement since its very inception The reason for this participation was not — as some negativists pretend — to water down Orthodox witness, to accept a Protestant view of Christianity and to drop the claim of Orthodoxy to be the true Church of Christ. Quite to the contrary, the Orthodox participants simply considered it their duty, and the duty of the Orthodox Church itself, to be present wherever unity in Christ was sought. It is precisely because the Orthodox Church is the true Church, i.e., the Church for all, that it could not escape the responsibility — and the opportunity — which was offered to it to be heard and understood.
The distinction between a “good” ecumenism, which can be espoused by the Orthodox and is nothing but an obligation of charity (as it has been for 2000 years), and a “wrong” ecumenism, which confuses rather than solves the issues, is to be understood clearly by all of us. The awareness that “wrong” ecumenism is indeed heresy should not lead us to forget the mission of our Church to the world, to the people around us, to those who sincerely seek the truth, for, as we forget this mission, we cease to be truly “catholic” and “orthodox” and become nothing but an introverted sect.
Precisely because our message is unique and because the Church is the guardian of a universal Truth, we have no right to restrict our witness to situations where “we” feel comfortable.
The Pope’s encyclical ‘Dominus Jesus’ is very clear on this matter.
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September 15, 2009 at 9:51 pm
churchmouse
Sorry, Gabriella — I would just like to clarify here for the benefit of our readers that when you say ‘Orthodox’ you are referring to the traditional Roman Catholic Church and not Eastern Orthodoxy (e.g. Greek). Please correct me if I’m wrong.
If so, then, we are agreed that we worship in our separate ways but come together in Christ through special services or celebrations.
If I have misunderstood, please let me know.
Many thanks! 🙂
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September 16, 2009 at 2:01 am
Sandy
Oh you did misunderstand ChurchMouse:>) I am picking at you.
Have prayer request please. Am really really tired from MRSA and am having a hard time getting my strength back. Also I do not know if I told you or not but had a mole taken off and it was pre-cancerous so they had to burn area today and guess what? Had two new growths so they took them off also. Please pray for me guys as I do not have enough energy that would fill a thimble.
I know you will so will thank you ahead of time. Goodnight, Sandy
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September 16, 2009 at 4:50 am
churchmouse
Hello, Sandy — I’ll say prayers for your quick recovery and return to good health. God bless you!
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September 16, 2009 at 1:09 pm
Sandy
Thank you so much, I truly need them. God Bless You, Sandy
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September 16, 2009 at 5:51 pm
Gabriella
Yes, Churchmouse, with ‘orthodox’ I mean the traditional Catholic Church – the normal Church as it has been throughout the past 2000 years – neither left nor right 🙂 Thank you.
No, you haven’t misunderstood. 🙂
Dear Sandy, I will also keep you in my prayers.
God bless you all.
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September 17, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Sandy
Thank you Gabriella for the prayers and you also ChurchMouse. Am doing a little better today, was actually able to work in the yard. It felt so good to do something again. I do not want to seem dumb or anything, which I probably am , but what the heck do the two of you mean by these different Churches. Do not laugh ChurchMouse:>) Do not drive a nail now in the fence post:>)
Really though I am a little confused about some of these issues. So could one of you explain it to me, I would appreciate it. I have never really understood all of this with the Roman Catholic Church, the Orthodox Church etc and how it relates to us. Thanks so much for the help. God Bless Both of you, Sandy
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September 18, 2009 at 6:41 am
churchmouse
Hi, Sandy
Great to hear from you — glad you’re feeling a bit better 🙂
I can empathise with your questions so will provide a link you can read at your leisure:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catholicism
It covers all the Christian churches (even though it says ‘Catholicism’).
This is part of what I was getting at in my ‘RCIA from a priest’ post — church history. It’s important to understand it in the context of Christianity. It’s not your fault at all — but this is why I am so concerned that people receive **proper instruction**.
Have a good day!
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