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By chance, through yet another free-association Web trawl at the weekend, I happened across a few videos about the damage that feminism has done to relationships between the sexes.

Long gone for many are the days of male gallantry and the delicate damsel in distress.  For over four decades Westerners have found themselves mired in feminism, for good or bad.  Sure, it’s wonderful that girls can attain any number of university degrees and that women have been able to vote for over a century in Australia and New Zealand, slightly less in the US and UK.  And the greater equality of wages between sexes for the same job is also to be lauded.

But let’s not forget that it’s the second wave of feminism which has been affecting interpersonal relationships. It originated with privileged upper middle class women (e.g. Betty Friedan) who had an axe to grind. The laudable goals of suffrage and equal treatment under the law with regard to property rights from the first wave became a slanging match between women and men.  Suddenly, everything from the family structure to birth control to equal pay turned everyday life into the battleground we see today.  Men and women became enemies.

Increasingly, fewer men and women are getting married.  In fact, they are not even dating.  Hundreds of books line the self-help shelves in an effort to encourage women to be more feminine when out on dates.  Men, however, are increasingly suspicious.  I cannot help but wonder if the willingness to say that one is gay — or to suddenly discover that one is in middle age (I know a few of these men) — has something to do with a fear of today’s women.  The men I know who fall into this category, by the way, had near-perfect (married) mothers: not only did they manage to raise their children with love, but they also maintained an orderly house, cooked for their families and worked outside the home.  So, two questions could be going through their minds: 1) who could ever live up to these feminine role models? and 2) why are my female contemporaries so … scary?

A lot of women today are scary.  You wouldn’t want them for your mothers.  You wouldn’t want them for friends.  They’re either single Stepford Wives-in-the-making or brittle harridans who look great until you start getting to know them.

In such an atmosphere, how do parents encourage their daughters to have a better balance between personal aspirations and inherent beauty to attract a mate?  How do parents explain feminism to their sons yet foster a goal of marriage and family to accompany their future working career?  It’s a bewildering situation, one which has grown worse with every passing decade.  Even Christian schools and church-sponsored youth activities aren’t always the answer.  Even in those surroundings, the faithful can find themselves unequally yoked (2 Cor. 6:14) with bad company (Proverbs 13).  Still, this is where the role of two parents come into play.  A father will be able to discern what’s going through a young man’s mind just as a mother will be able to evaluate whether a young woman is a suitable and responsible match for her son.

What follows are four short videos exploring this war between the sexes which is largely responsible for increasingly weak men and aggressive women in the West.

The first film is a two-minute clip from ‘I Was a Teenage Feminist’.  I applaud the young men interviewed for being so polite and restrained in their assessments of faminism:

The second film is just under 20 minutes long where a variety of famous women in a montage of television interviews explain in a brutally frank yet non-gratuitous manner (if you’re easily offended, give it a miss, although it’s useful viewing) the conflicting messages that women — and men — receive about what used to be known as the ‘gentle’ or ‘fairer’ sex.  How do youngsters and singletons handle these relationships?  Should women dress like tarts?  Who should pay on the first date?  How can men trust women?  How does one ‘date’ or ‘court’ in this atmosphere?

In the third film, which is nine minutes long, a young man explains why Generation Y (generally, born between the mid-1970s to the 1990s, although end dates may differ) are having problems dating and getting married.  Feminists from the 1960s have a lot for which to answer.  My heart goes out to this chap and the millions of others in the same situation — highly recommended:

Finally, the Revd Voddie Baucham, a Baptist, gives his perspective on a man’s role in life and in the family.  I don’t agree 100% with Mr Baucham on everything family-oriented, but this is a good, two-minute perspective — worth watching along with the preceding video:

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